THIRD SEA DAY
It would be five days before we were blessed with another sea day—reason being the distance between Grenada and the Netherlands Antilles. It proved to be a quiet day in which to recuperate from getting up early in order to explore island after island: St. Maartin, Antigua, Saint Lucia, Barbados, and Grenada. Needless to say, it was needed.
We did little but play a game of “O Henry” (also called “Aw Shucks,” and worse), a variation of dominoes. Other than that, we loafed, strolled around, and watched the sea gulls lazily circling the ship. In the evening, a second formal night. By now our waiters (Lazaro from Honduras, and Michael from Serbia) were old friends. Since our table is right next to a window, we’re able to watch the sunset, followed by immediate equatorial darkness.
Afterwards, I hit the upper deck for fifteen laps. An unknown beauty passes me again and again in the half-lit track; in dramatic contrast are the obese walkers who can barely move, the smokers who can only sit, puff, and idly watch those of us walking or running off our calories. Then back to the room. Tomorrow will be a long day.
FOURTH SEA DAY
Once we bid good-bye to Bonaire, we’d not make landfall for two and a half days. Dinner, dominoes, listening to Jasmine and her trio perform Latin classics, followed by a forgettable torchy singer and a comedian who managed to be funny without resorting to night club language, completed our day.
We woke the next morning to heavy seas. So much so that pre-breakfast on the veranda was impossible. Whenever the hallway door was opened, and the veranda sliding door was open, the wind would shriek through like it was a wind-tunnel; in the process smashing glasses.
After breakfast buffet, I headed down to the purser to settle accounts (I’ve learned to check out early in order to avoid having to stand in long lines on the last day). Made sure that Tondi, Lazaro, and Michael received generous gratuities, along with support staff. We’ve learned that most of those who work on cruise ships are paid precious little, consequently, unless passengers are generous with their tips, the room attendants and waiters are likely to return home after nine months at sea with very little to show for their work.
FIFTH SEA DAY
It’s always sad to wake up to your last day at sea. As a writer, it is the time when I reflect most, watch people most, and devote the most time to my journal.
On this day, I was once again overwhelmed by the obesity epidemic (two-thirds of Americans being classified as obese, one-third already with diabetes). The situation tends to be even worse on cruise ships. On the decks, day after day you see the same obese people flopped out in lawn chairs like so many walruses (hour after hour, dawn to dusk, there they remain, when not eating). Even on shore days, there they stay, unwilling to go ashore because there they’d have to walk. On the ship, they line up in lines waiting for an elevator; almost never will they take the stairs. I couldn’t help thinking: What a national tragedy: Two thirds of Americans now classified as obese, one-third of all Americans now diabetic. Almost half a million dying every day—same as for smokers. The two epidemics are killing almost a million every year. What a waste! How many bright futures blighted and snuffed out! How many sorrowing families deprived of fathers and mothers, brothers and sisters, sons and daughters.
And as I couldn’t help but notice how many stayed on the ship when in port, unable or unwilling to experience another country and its people, I wondered why they’d spent all this money to travel here in the first place. I wished I could freeze the action on the ship and shout out, “STOP! Wake up and save yourself before it’s too late! From this moment on, monitor every bite you eat, count the carbs, and limit yourself to no more than twelve choices a day. Vigorously exercise a minimum of 30 – 45 minutes a day. Take the stairs instead of the elevators. Never smoke another cigarette in your life! Wake up and live so I can meet you again!” But of course, I didn’t; I could only weep inwardly.
And I thought again about the incredible difference friends make in our lives. Each one (noted by C.S. Lewis in The Four Loves) opening a door into our personality that no one else ever will; when that friend is gone, the key to that door goes too. As John Donne put it long ago: each one that goes takes part of us with him, with her. So as Bob and Lucy, Ed and Jo, and Connie and I explored the ship and the islands together, dined together, watched programs together, played games together, and shared memories together, I thought again about how very much friendships like these enrich our lives, and how much we treasure each one.
I thought too about what little money each of us had, and how some might consider travel to be a waste of money. Yet it is said that when each of us comes to the end of our life’s journey, we may have many regrets—but none of us ever regrets the memories we made, the friends who enriched our lives, the insights we gained and the difference we made in the lives of the people we interacted with in our travels. Always, in travel, we should give more than we take.
Our head-waiter Lazaro -- from Honduras
That last dinner was poignant as we looked at each other around the candlelit table. At our ages especially, how many more times might we be privileged to travel like this with each other? Our waiters who were not now mere waiters but friends we’d come to love and appreciate; same with Tondi and the support staff. They’d come into our lives, and in fourteen short days, we’d left them. Would we ever see them again?
Jo and Ed waving napkins as waiters brought in the Baked Alaska
At the conclusion of that last dinner, suddenly the waiters all disappeared, then in a long succession of bearers of Baked Alaska, they streamed down the stairs, and we clapped our appreciation as they came. For each of them lived for more than meager pay and inadequate tips: each of them yearned to be appreciated, cherished, loved.
As did we.
Bob and Lucy at dining table
Next morning, we woke to the prosaic Fort Lauderdale dockyard. It was over. Our island in time—all cruises are that—was but a memory. Yet, each of us, when life closes in on us, may retreat through those memories into those all too short days and nights on the Caribbean Sea.
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Next Wednesday, we invite you to vicariously come along with us to Williamsburg, Jamestown, and Yorktown, Virginia as we guide you through our 29th annual Zane Grey’s West Society convention.